Even though I’m a romanticist at heart and often find myself wondering how perfect it would be if something would go exactly like it played out in my head, you’ll will only know in hindsight if something was the right timing for it to happen. It’s way more likely you’ve gone through an experience and noticed just afterwards everything fell into place. That all the stepping stones were in order, and every reaction and moments that occurred were perfectly timed. Still, I feel like it’s such a normality to wait for something until it feels as the right time, instead of just going for it and see what it could bring.
That thought got me wanting to rewire this concept once and for all, because to me one of the most terrifying thoughts is to look back after years of waiting on the right time, just to find out it never came. It never came because you’ve let moments pass by that could have been the right time, but didn’t feel like it then. Leaving you with a train of thoughts, mesmerizing all the moments that could have led to being the right ones, and knowing that you’ve missed them. To avoid this heartbreaking situation, let’s put in some air in this concept.
I think it has something to do with a desire to make things perfect. At least from my perspective it definitely is. Or relying on your intuïtion for 100%, instead of sometimes taking a leap of faith and see what it could bring you. It’s most likely somewhere between those feelings. But what is perfection really? And what would you see as perfect right now, could be totally different in a few years. It’s all a matter of you perceive things. There is also something like moving forward, that feels so much better than standing still. With moving experiences come, and the knowledge on how to do things better. Unexpected moments, and maybe – who knows – with a little bit of luck, you might be surprised with the right timing after all.
Great. But what to do with that information? You could recognize the feeling that your time is way too valuable to be waiting for the right time. And that it’s just way scarier to wait for something like that, than to actually find out if something was the right timing. I think it all comes down to the fact that it’s pretty enjoyable to live and be surprised by the perfectness of something, in stead of having to wait for it. Just like it’s way more enjoyable when you’re struck by beauty – whether it’s a person, or moment – than when you actually chase it. It made me think that I’ll rather see life as an endless chain of possibilities and perfect timings. And to be able to say something served me so well in hindsight, than to actually focus on something magical to happen, which might never be the case. And even in the worst case, notice that that thing you hoped would happen, never happened. Ouch.
It could also leave you wanting to let go of expectations, and the unfolding of things. Because if we already have decided about what would be a perfect timing, there’s no room left to be surprised with a better way. Leaving some room for magic. So just go. Turn nothing into something. And who knows, you’ll might be surprised with the right timing after all. Isn’t that a perfect feeling?