Even though I’m a romanticist at heart and often find myself wondering how perfect it would be if something would go exactly like it played out in my head, you’ll only know in hindsight if something was the right time for it to happen. It’s way more likely you’ve gone through an experience and noticed just afterwards it was the right time. That everything fell into place. That all the stepping stones were in order, and every reaction and moment that occurred was perfectly timed. Still, I feel like it’s such a normality to wait for something until it feels as the right time, instead of just going for it and see what it could bring.
That specific thought got me wanting to change this perspective, because to me one of the most terrifying thoughts is to look back after years of waiting for the right time, to find out it never came. It never came because you’ve let moments pass by that could have been the right ones, but didn’t feel like it then. Leaving you with a train of thoughts, mesmerizing all the moments and knowing that you’ve missed them. To avoid this heartbreaking situation, let’s put some air in this concept.
I think it has something to do with a desire to make things perfect. But in the process of describing perfection, you might just get lost in what this actually looks like. And how it looks now, might be different in ten years. Just compare it to what the 20-year-old you needed in a relationship, and the 30-year-old you. Perfection is relative, it’s temporary, and from a specific point of view it could be the gatekeeper to actually enjoying your moments, that might just turn out into something that you will perceive as perfection. There is also the feeling of moving forward, that feels so much better than standing still. With movement experiences come, and the knowledge on how to do things better, or what worked out perfectly. And if you ask me, feeling good on a regular is more valuable than the hunt for just one perfect moment.
Great. But what to do with that information? You could recognize the feeling that your time right now is way too valuable to be waiting for the right time. And that it’s just way scarier to wait for something like that, than to actually just go for it and find out. I think it all comes down to the fact that it’s pretty enjoyable to be surprised by the perfectness of something, instead of waiting for it. Just like it’s way more enjoyable when you’re struck by beauty – whether it’s a person, or moment – than when you actually chase it. It made me think that I’ll rather see life as an endless chain of possibilities and perfect timings. And to be able to say something served me so well in hindsight, than to actually focus on something magical to happen, which might never be the case. Or in the worst case, notice that that one thing you hoped would happen, never happened. Ouch.
It could also leave you wanting to let go of expectations, and the unfolding of things. Because if we already have decided about what would be perfect, there’s no room left to be surprised with something better. But I’m not the one to be filling in the blanks for you, we’re all different after all. I’m just here to remind you to leave some room for magic. To turn nothing into something, instead of waiting. And who knows, you’ll might find out it was the right time after all. And isn’t that just a perfect feeling?